What about your parents?

Do you think it is a crucial question? But I think so. Once I heard an incident which alarmed me about the plight future of the aged parents. You believe or not : an old lady was found in a bus stand in the midst of a waste deposit as tightened in a sack. It was found by the Kudumbsree members came for cleaning that area. When they were categorizing this waste, heard a  kind and pathetic voice. 

Actually I had wrote an eye opening results of a survey conducted by Help age. Unfortunately that failed to publish.Now I am trying to replicate that. But that figures are not available. India having above 40% youths and above 30% aged.... can be considered as a boon or bane. Why it is so is in the sense of boon - more man power will be available, but in bane is the shortage of employment opportunities and high investment on  health aspects. 

90% in loneliness, 35% forced to work for earning in their disabilities, 60% uncared by children, 27% separated etc......................

Why we cant care our parents? I also remember some sad moments with my grand parent. I cant remember these terrible moments that I made wrong emotions. But I fully realizing his love, affection, care, humbleness and all. Most respected by all........ Strong believer of God who guided me a lot to move ahead. Frankly speaking. Sometimes my sadness flow out and my heart will beat faster than normal. At his old age his hearing lost partially but his affection increased thrice. Some times I irritated by his countinious questions and hesitated to answer.    You know, he was some what bold and self conscious, he will not change when he decides something, eat sumptuously and shout irresistibly. There were some strong  fights between him and me. not physically but verbally. Some times it exceeds the limit of our house walls. Not by our sound but by our strong grit and uncompromising attitude. Now I am praying...........My God, I know I am very emotional in nature and uncompromising in attitude and pride with ego. But great fortune that I have realized it. 

At his last times he loved me very much and enormously. But I was out of station. Once I visited my grandpa while he was in bed and very tired. He stood up with all his efforts and embrace me hold his hand on my neck and kissed. Then put his hand on my head and blessed repeatedly. That happened many times/occasions. But I failed to accept his love. I was not in a mood to fell a  drops even his funeral function. 

I know,  now it is a deep wound in my heart and I am fearful remember my wrong doings. I am realizing that some uncompromisable attitude of my grand pa made me like that. I can explain you an incident, When I got a job in Trivandrum, I normally gone to my house twice in a month. Once I reached my house, my grand pa was not there and he was in my Uncles house. Some what intentionally I refused to meet him that day by remembering some bad incidents. Tomorrow morning I met him and expected a warm welcome and love. But he refused to meet me and remarked that why dont you come to see me yesterday?. I was really insulted and left there. I thought that he said it in a wrong intention. But later I realized that he loved me very much. But my chance were over while accepting this fact.

I have heard a stroy in my child hood and it says like as follows.

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45-year old highly educated son.Suddenly a crow perched on their window.The Father asked his Son, "What is this?" The Son replied "It is a crow". After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?" The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow". After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, "What is this?" At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. "It's a crow, a crow". A little after, the Father again asked his Son t he 4th time, "What is this?" This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again,although I have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary: - 

"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time h e asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated. I rather felt affection for my innocent child".

The elderly can be seen as burdens rather than blessings. Sometimes we are quick to forget the sacrifices are parents made for us when they are in need of care themselves. Instead of taking them into our homes—whenever that is safe and feasible—we put them in retirement communities or nursing homes, sometimes against their will. We may not value the wisdom they have acquired through living long lives, and we can discredit their advice as “outdated.”

When we honor and care for our parents, we are serving God as well. The Bible says, “The church should care for any widow who has no one else to care for her. But if she has children or grandchildren, their first responsibility is to show godliness at home and repay their parents by taking care of them. This is something that pleases God very much....But those who won't care for their own relatives, especially those living in the same household, have denied what we believe. Such people are worse than unbelievers” 

The decisions of Governemnt is welcoming and there efforts to care our old aged people. National Policy on old persons, Parent maintanace act, pensions and orphanages etc. are most welcoming. But I think it is not sufficient for parent caring. An in depth study, strong amendments and implementation mechanisnm etc should strengthen.